Blogging While Underage

I’ve spent a lot of time this week in this bed snuggling with this little bundle of snotty yumminess. Everybody’s sick in this house, but today my oldest (aka pooh bear) is back at school and piglet (above) is prancing around the house demanding SNACKS and Yubo is looking hot in a suit and the skinny tie I bought him while he goes on interviews.

I, on the other hand, am still confined to my bed.

I’m sick and have in fact been in bed wearing the same sweats and Yubo’s long-sleeve shirt since Wednesday night when I came home from class and threw myself into bed. I knew I was sick by Tuesday night, but I had promised a friend I would teach her freshman composition class about blogging for a blog project they have and then I had a seminar class in the evening. It just doesn’t do to let down your friends or miss the first day of a class. Still, by Wednesday night I felt like crawling into the fetal position and crying about how much I hurt. I missed work Thursday morning and today I’m missing volunteering in my son’s class and lunch with a friend I haven’t seen in months. I hate missing things, but it hurts to move right now and, besides, there’s no reason to infect my students, a classroom full of six-year-olds, and my poor friend. At least that’s what I’m telling myself to make myself feel better.

Even though I probably should have been in bed, the blogging lesson I gave for my friend’s class was pretty fascinating. Not so much my lesson, but the perspective of the students I was teaching. In a lot of ways, the generation of kids coming of age right now have lives that are much more technology integrated. When I was in high school, everybody had pagers and memorized “pager code” (143 637! right? anyone?), AOL was still king of the internet (“You’ve got mail!”), I could sing along with the noise that the dial-up made when it was trying to connect to the internet, and over the summer I got in trouble for hanging out in AIM chat rooms. Now there’s twitter and facebook and blogs and the internet is wireless and you’re online as soon as you turn on your computer. Internet is on your phone and actual books, newspapers, and magazines are being hailed as things of the past. (To which I solemnly declare – NEVER!)

So when I agreed to teach my friend’s class of nineteen year olds about blogging, I expected my instruction to be at least somewhat redundant. I mean, setting up a blog isn’t that much more complicated than setting up a facebook account, is it? (Fun fact: I had a blog for years before I set up a facebook account. Actually, I had a blog before facebook existed.) And even if I didn’t expect most of the students to actually write a blog, I did assume that they read blogs. Interestingly enough, NONE of them had ever written a blog. One of them read a non-tumbr blog on a regular basis (a blog on a molecular biology, as that’s his major – I thought that was pretty cool!). Two more of them knew what tumblr was and occasionally read tumblr blogs. The other dozen and a half of them – nothing. So has blogging become passe amongst the so-called internet generation?

I look at the blogosphere today and it seems to me to be vibrant, diverse, and constantly evolving. When I started blogging (circa 2001, baby!), my blog was basically a very literal interpretation of the medium – my private diary made public. Public in that my mother and my best friend read it, at least. It was a lot of angst and posts consisting entirely of angsty quotes. (Forgive me, I was young.) After I became pregnant with my son in 2005, my husband and I started a baby blog to share our lives with our far-flung friends and relatives, but in a totally unexpected turn of events, strangers started reading our blog. Strangers who wrote blogs themselves. And then suddenly, there I was, plugged right into the whole mommy (and daddy) blogging thing. Not long after, I and some of the women I had “met” via blogging started Kimchi Mamas, which continues today as a place for mothers of Korean American children to share, discuss, debate, and reflect. My next blog was another personal blog, part mommy blog, part design/fashion blog, and meanwhile I picked up professional blogging gigs writing about fashion and parenting. And after an extended blogging hiatus, now there’s this, my newest blog project, which is much more compartmentalized but which reflects an ongoing passion and interest of mine.

I’m not sure why my friend’s students don’t read blogs. My teaching partner, who is ten years younger than me and so is much closer in age to those (and our) students, reads blogs. I know because he was wearing a hyperbole and a half t-shirt one day and we got to talking. (He was also wearing a Harry Potter t-shirt the day I met him, which automatically endeared him to me forever and ever.) At some point this semester, the professor of our class has committed me to teaching blogging for our class so I guess I’ll have another sample from which to ponder this quandary.

I think blogs are such an amazing medium for self-expression, and I think that using them as part of a composition class makes a lot of sense. I hope that after their writing class is over, they’ll return to blogging to write about something they’re interested in – music or fashion or baking or molecular biology. There are very few barriers to self-expression when it comes to blogging, which is part of the beauty of it, and I’m glad that I could be part of taking one more barrier down. Here’s a blog, here’s how to set one up, here’s how to write a post, add pictures, publish.

In the spirit of teaching young people (oi, when I did I become old enough to teach “young people” things??) about blogging, here are a few of my favorite blogs written by high school and college-aged people:

style rookie – now a sophomore in high school, Tavi Gevinson has been blogging since she was 11. ELEVEN. And yes, like with all prodigious children, it’s easy to laser in on the AMAZING YOUTHFUL AGE NUMBER and the fact that she sits front row at fashion shows and has appeared on Wait, Wait Don’t Tell Me (okay, is it just me – public radio nerd – that is wildly impressed with this particular factoid?). Also, she has her own online magazine for teens called Rookie Mag, which is all kinds of awesome – the kind of thing that I wish had been around when I was her age. But mostly, she’s got that rare quality of creativity and confidence that most teenagers and even most fully-grown adults (raising my hand) still struggle with. She’s got a unique perspective and it’s beautiful and weird and I can’t say I always get it, but it’s always, always interesting.

new tiger in town – a blog by Sophia Chua-Rubenfield, the daughter of the debated-to-death Tiger Mom. Sophia is whip smart and attending Harvard (no surprises there), but she’s also got a great sense of humor and her voice is a winning mix of maturity, idealism, and irreverence.

La Vagabond Dame – Natalie is seventeen, and her winter formal dress? was amazing. Her blog is a new find of mine, and I love her style. At some point it’s going to become weird (or weirder) to be taking style tips from a seventeen-year-old, but I think (hope?) I can still get away with it for a few more years.

the aftermath of rainbows and unicorns – Sam lost her mother and her older brother on 9/11, and has basically raised herself and her two little sisters since then. She’s a college student now, and she’s amazing. Hard-working, pragmatic, thoughtful, protective. I’m pretty much blown over in admiration for her every time I read her blog.

I Was A Foster Kid – LT was a foster kid. She’s been through hell, and she’s fighting her way out. She’s smart, articulate, and has a huge and tender heart. Her blog is both heartbreaking and inspiring.

Do you read any blogs by teenagers or young adults? Or are you a student with a blog who breaks my unscientific sample of college freshmen?

Slouchy Style

Today was my first day back at work. It’s hard to describe my job because it’s really sort of an odd gig. I guess it’s kind of like the TA-led discussion sections I had for large lectures in undergrad. Regardless, it was nice to see my students again even if they didn’t appear quite as excited as I was about returning to class. Because of that, we played an ice breaker game to ease the transition and I gave them candy.

Candy makes everything better. Except, I guess, your teeth.

This outfit just feels very slouchy to me, like everything is just hanging off my body. But not in a bad way, I hope. The tie-front blouse from Mikkat Market I’m wearing is one of my favorite pieces. I wear it with nearly everything; it’s very versatile. And I love the color of the BCBG Max Azria scarf I’m wearing. It’s actually two-tone with a bright pink-orange coral and then a more pale and subtle pink.

(I’m on the phone! Yubo called me mid-shoot.)

For the past year and a half I’ve embraced my inner geek and used a roller briefcase at school to carry my laptop and books. I actually have scoliosis. I’m fortunate that I still look pretty symmetrical from the outside (though my x-rays tell a different story), but carrying a heavy bag on a regular basis isn’t a good idea. This semester, however, I’m trying to carry a lighter load and use a large purse or canvas bag instead of my roller bag. I used to take all my notes on my laptop, but this semester I’m going back to handwritten notes. I think I retain the information better that way anyway. I’ll still have to use the roller on days I need to lug a lot of books to and from campus, but not everyday.

This canvas bag is from Kimchi Mamas, the Korean American mothering blog that I co-founded several years ago. On the front is the image of a woman in a hanbok wagging her finger (the Kimchi Mamas logo designed by one of our contributors, halfmama) and on the back is our motto: “Burn your tongue.”

(Why, hello there, toes.)

Blouse: Mikkat Market
Shirt: J.Crew
Pants: Mikkat Market
Bag: Kimchi Mamas canvas tote bag
Shoes: Marc Jacobs (old)
Scarf: BCBG Max Azria (it’s in stores now, but I can’t find it online)
Nail Polish: essie watermelon

First Day of Spring 2012

It’s raining here today and like any good Angeleno, I have no idea what to do with myself when it’s raining. Is it even possible to take pictures outside when it’s raining? It must be, but I really have no idea!

On the bright side, I got to use my rainbow umbrella today, which I love to pieces, but would have looked weird in my indoor pictures. Also, apparently it’s bad luck to open an umbrella inside? So instead you have me posing awkwardly next to our piano. It’s a gorgeous piano though, is it not?

All this to say, I usually dislike indoor outfit shots and mine are no exception. Our house photographs horribly; the lighting is poor, the carpet is dark (ick), and a large portion of the house is wood-paneled (1960s ftw!). So this, my friends, was the best I could do under such horribly difficult circumstances.

Woe is me, right?

On the bright side, today was the first day of classes for the spring 2012 semester, and I attended a seminar class that is part of a college composition teacher training program I was accepted into right before we broke for the holidays last year. Next fall, my cohort and I will teach our own freshman composition classes. Since we’ll be spending quite a lot of time together over the next couple years, it’s quite fortunate that everybody in my cohort seem like genuinely nice people with sharp minds who are serious about learning to teach composition well.

After class, I went to dinner with a couple of women in my cohort that I knew from previous classes. We ate tacos and talked about theory, literature, and film (I admit, the conversation was a tad heavy on Colin Firth swooning) and laughed a lot. It was so fun! It’s so nice to make friends with people that share your interests (Colin Firth and otherwise).

My outfit was inspired in part by these images of Peony Lim and Alexa Chung, who are quite unreachable in their loveliness. And my silly necklace is just a fun, irreverent nod to my nerdy enthusiasm for the resumption of classes.

Sweater: Saks Fifth Avenue cashmere (hand-me-down from my mama)
Shirt: Anthropologie tunic
Skirt: Zara
Tights: J.Crew
Shoes: J.Crew
Accessories: Forever 21 reader pendant necklace and pearl earrings (gift)
Nail Polish: essie watermelon

Happily Overdressed

Today was my first official day back at work after the break. Since I work at a university (the same one where I attend graduate school), most of my colleagues dress pretty casually. And it’s not like I don’t ever just throw on my favorite pair of jeans and a comfy hoodie, but I really enjoy dressing up so I try to take every opportunity.

When I was staying at home with my children during their earliest years, it was so easy for me to stop caring about myself. Motherhood during those first few years was almost indescribably beautiful and moving, but it was also utterly absorbing. Without really realizing it, I poured my whole self into the raising of my children and while I’m so glad I was able to do it, I think I sort of lost sight of my self as a whole, individual person.

I’m still working on it, but going back to school was part of me reclaiming some sense of balance.

Another part, as frivolous as it may seem in the grand scheme of things, is this. Fashion. Beauty. Clothes. Makeup. Painting my nails and (I’m loathe to admit) showering regularly again. While I concede the frivolity of fashion in the grand scheme of things, it makes me happy. It’s fun.

When I dress up, I feel beautiful and confident and strong. Not that I don’t feel those things when I come home and change into sweats and wipe off my lipstick, but that’s just the thing. Home is the place where I am safe, and that’s where I was for the greater part of four years. Now I go out into the world, and I enjoy the experience of creating myself for the world, so to speak.

Moving on from the philosophizing and on to the clothes! The jacket I’m wearing is a beautiful opera jacket by Dolce & Gabanna that my mama bought on sale some time ago, but then didn’t end up liking for her. It’s convenient that she has a daughter, is it not? The sleeves are so perfectly poofy at the wrists – I just love it.

Jacket: Dolce & Gabbana black silk satin opera jacket (hand-me-down from my mama), similar (with cropped sleeves) here
Shirt: J.Crew
Skirt: Anthropologie
Tights: J.Crew
Shoes: J.Crew glitter oxford ballet flats
Purse: vintage, worn as clutch (from ebay)
Sunglasses: Chanel (hand-me-down from my mama)
Nail Polish: essie watermelon

Field Trip

This morning I helped chaperone my son’s kindergarten class field trip to a local restaurant. The kids were so well-behaved and it was pretty adorable to see them holding hands in pairs, walking behind their teacher through the neighborhood like Madeline and her classmates following Miss Clavel through Paris.

The restaurant even provided coffee for the parents and teacher during the children’s pizza making lesson and then provided a couple of pizzas for the adults when the pizzas were ready to eat.

Best field trip ever!

This sweater I’m wearing was a gift from my mama when I was in college. I like that it can be worn open or buttoned up high so it serves as a turtleneck. It also has pockets, which is nearly always an automatic plus in my book.

Everything should have pockets.

On a side note, I’m kind of unhappy with my hair at this stage. I’ve been growing it out from the pixie cut I had a year or so ago, but it’s just at such an annoyingly dull stage right now. I’m tempted to just chop it all off again, but that’s not really what I want either.

Jacket: Moschino Cheap and Chic (borrowed from my mama)
Sweater: Theory (old)
Shirt: J.Crew silk tank
Shorts: Mikkat Market glitter shorts
Tights: J.Crew
Shoes: J.Crew glitter oxford ballet flats
Sunglasses: Chanel (hand-me-down from my mama)
Accessories: Banana Republic earrings (old)

Academic Chic

I had an appointment with one of my professors this afternoon. The semester doesn’t start till next week, but my prof has offered to sort of co-propose a special session at the next MLA conference in one of my main areas of interest. It’s not all that easy to find mentors, and at my university, it’s particularly hard to find mentors in my focus area.

So I’m pretty excited.

It’s very tiny in the pictures, but the bracelet I’m wearing is actually a little gold pig charm hanging from red and blue elastic bands. In the Korean tradition, babies are given gold jewelry on their first birthday and this was a gift for my second son.

I really like it so I’ve appropriated it. Who doesn’t want a little golden pig?

Although I’ve been wearing heels more lately, I usually wear flats to school. But I try to wear shoes that are sensible and cute.

I love how these play on those black and white wingtip oxfords. And they’re glittery. It can’t get much more awesome than glitter, am I right?

Five more days till my first day of classes! I can’t wait!

Sweater: Banana Republic (hand-me-down from my halmoni)
Shirt: Mikkat Market black asymmetric draping tee
Skirt: J.Crew plaid mini skirt
Tights: J.Crew
Shoes: J.Crew glitter oxford ballet flats
Gloves: J.Crew ribbed fingerless glovettes
Bag: Marni (borrowed from my mama)
Sunglasses: Chanel (hand-me-down from my mama)
Accessories: gold pig charm bracelet (gift)
Nail Polish: essie watermelon